Thank you for being so vulnerable. I am not the pastors kid but I do understand where you are coming from. Being the oldest daughter in my family I often worry about what people thought of me and how I might affect people. I still struggle with that but sometimes you just can't help it. But my question is would that count as people pleasing? Upholding a certain persona because you are afraid people might think negatively of you?
For me, if we act certains ways because we love others then we don't always have to be "authentic." It is like when Paul says he became whoever he needed to be to be a good example of Christ. That was for others. Most times I am acting to cover my own butt. It looks loving but it often turns out others care less than I think they do, and I am very inauthentic.
Thank you for being so vulnerable. I am not the pastors kid but I do understand where you are coming from. Being the oldest daughter in my family I often worry about what people thought of me and how I might affect people. I still struggle with that but sometimes you just can't help it. But my question is would that count as people pleasing? Upholding a certain persona because you are afraid people might think negatively of you?
For me, if we act certains ways because we love others then we don't always have to be "authentic." It is like when Paul says he became whoever he needed to be to be a good example of Christ. That was for others. Most times I am acting to cover my own butt. It looks loving but it often turns out others care less than I think they do, and I am very inauthentic.